Victim:  
  1. Usually has short-term problem
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Martyr:  
 Long-term problem
 
Victim:
 2. Motivated to change
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Martyr:     
 Stuck in their problem

Victim: 
 3. Rights violated by others
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Martyr:
 Rights violated by others
 
Victim:
 4. Did not choose the problem
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Martyr:
 Chooses to remain in problem situation
 
Victim:
 5. Never complains
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Martyr:
 Complains all the time
 
Victim:
 6. Lacks insight into problem
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Martyr::
 Frequently has insight into the problem
 
Victim:
 7. Unknowingly plays an active part in the problem
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Martyr: 
 Frequently knowingly plays an active part in the problem
 
Victim:
 8. Doesn't often seek help
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Martyr:
 Seeks help all the time
 
Victim:
 9. Wants to ``let go'' of problem
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Martyr:  
 ``Holds on to'' the problem
 
Victim:
10. Guilt free
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Martyr:
 Guilt driven
 
Victim:
11. Solution oriented
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Martyr:
 Problem oriented
 
Victim:
12. Powerless due to lack of knowledge
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Martyr:
 Powerless out of a free will choice to be so
 
this list was used with permission from  Dr James Messina's website Coping.org http://www.coping.org/relations/martyr.htm#difference